What is the girlfriend effect? Do you have friends around you who become more fashionable after being in a relationship?

Boys pursue comfort and convenience in clothing, which does not meet girls' aesthetic standards.

The logic behind this is actually very simple. It is only after you have a girlfriend that you come to know what girls like.

Many boys, it’s not that they don’t care about their appearance, it’s just that they prioritize their own comfort.

In the summer, it’s tank tops, shorts, flip-flops, and short-sleeved shirts.

In the winter, it’s thick coats, thermal pants, and heavy winter pants.

Their goal is one word: convenience.

Two words: extremely comfortable.

And it’s basically the same as the requirements that parents had for boys back in the day: just don’t be cold or hungry.

As for their fashion sense, there are so many boys who have been trained by their partners after getting into relationships.

Some boys, who have become self-aware and know that they need to groom themselves, might not necessarily meet the so-called high-end fashion standards of girls.

The trendy elements that boys like and the high-end fashion elements that girls talk about are completely different!

Love Trap

Creating new vocabulary again?

Are there many boys nowadays who don’t pursue girls, don’t dare to date, and are in a hurry to fabricate the “benefits” of having a girlfriend?

Save it. No one falls for it anymore.

However, whether it’s boys or girls, they do tend to change themselves for their loved ones.

Once a person starts paying attention to their appearance, takes care of themselves, it means that he/she has someone they like and wants to leave a good impression on that person.

Furthermore, if your partner suddenly starts working out, buying a lot of nice clothes, and dressing themselves seriously, chances are they are cheating on you…

When a person cheats, there are generally these signs:

· They suddenly pay attention to their appearance, do their hair, dress up, and pay more attention to personal hygiene than before.

· They suddenly start sneakily looking at their phone, hiding from you, and occasionally giggling at the screen.

· They come up with inexplicable excuses when you ask them about something, and each time the excuse is different.

· They suddenly start being unusually attentive towards you.

· They start making excuses to refuse your invitations.

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This also serves as a reminder to everyone -

When it comes to the matter of your partner cheating, you mustn’t be too obtuse!

Although there’s no need to be overly suspicious or sensitive, you should still maintain enough sensitivity!

You must detect the signs early and strangle the idea of them cheating in its infancy!

(Unless you can completely control this person, and have absolute confidence that they won’t dare to kick you out)

Otherwise, it will be too late to intervene!

A while ago, I noticed that my boyfriend was becoming cold towards me… luckily, I managed to bring him back in time!

He suddenly started sneakily looking at his phone, hiding from me, and occasionally giggling at the screen.

He started paying attention to his appearance, doing his hair, dressing up, and looking at himself in the mirror.

His performance in bed was unsatisfactory, and he started making excuses to refuse me.

He started being unusually attentive towards me, and bought me expensive gifts…

All these signs pointed to one fact - he was cheating!

He is my boss, and even after we got together, I continued working at his company.

In the company, after several days of observation, I finally discovered the problem -

The green tea in the finance department, who started at the same time as me, was having an affair with the boss!

She looks very innocent, with straight hair, a small nose, small eyes, and a light-colored dress… as though she is inexperienced in love.

She appears innocent on the surface, but she is actually very scheming - a “****”!

I saw it with my own eyes in the corridor, she reached out and grabbed his waist, and he smiled in response, patting her buttocks.

I was furious, and I really wanted to rush over and slap her in the face.

I won’t just let it go,

I have to show this couple some color…

Let’s start from the beginning: I fell for my boss and made up my mind to get him.

On Friday afternoon at 2 o’clock, I brought the modified proposals.

My boss was busy with his back to me, not saying anything. I placed the documents on his desk and gently backed away.

As I was leaving, the secretary’s office happened to be open, and I made eye contact with my boss’s male secretary, so I went in to chat with him for a while.

I praised him for his new look, and he complimented me on how well my skirt matched my complexion.

He recently started dating a new girlfriend, and she was, so I gave him some advice, telling him what gifts girls like and which dessert is particularly delicious.

He actually picked up a notebook and wrote down everything I said.

While his eyes weren’t on me, I glanced at his computer screen, and there was my boss’s schedule.

Two days later, on Thursday at 10 a.m., my boss is going to a well-known high-end spa in town.

On the way back to my department, I couldn’t wait to take out my phone and find information about Villa Venezia.

Without hesitation, I immediately placed an order.

I woke up at 6 a.m. on Sunday, and started getting ready. I carefully selected my battle outfit, and finally decided on a wine red dress that accentuated my figure, paired with black stockings, exuding a graceful and feminine charm.

In the taxi, the driver kept trying to strike up a conversation, but I wasn’t in the mood to talk to him. As the destination got closer, I felt a mix of anticipation and nervousness.

I arrived half an hour early, but instead of rushing in, I found a discreet spot in the lobby on the first floor and observed secretly.

At 9:58, Gao Sheng indeed arrived. He was dressed casually, wearing black shorts and sunglasses, tall and with a remarkable presence.

The owner of the club personally came out to greet him, with a smile on his face and bowing. Gao Sheng, still with his usual poker face, exchanged a few short words and was led inside by the owner and two waitresses.

I silently counted to five and then followed them.

The corridor was quiet, with dim lighting. I walked quietly behind them, afraid of being discovered, maintaining a distance of more than ten meters.

Gao Sheng entered a room.

Just as I felt my heart was about to leap out of my throat, a man behind me suddenly spoke:

“Miss, can I help you with something?”

I was startled, and when I recovered, I saw a young server with big eyes and a sunny smile.

“Are all those rooms for rest?” I asked.

“No, those are private rooms.”

I thanked him and was about to go forward.

But he stopped me: “Miss, do you have a reservation?”

I shook my head and showed him the ticket.

“Sorry, our private rooms are only for VIP customers.”

He had a nice smile, but his words made me uncomfortable.

So I paid 5,000 RMB and got a membership card. Finally, no one stopped me anymore.

The server arranged a private hot spring room for me, just next to Gao Sheng’s room.

Although it was called a private room, it was more like an open-air swimming pool in a high-end hotel - except the water was warm and surrounded by a faint mist.

I immediately took off my long dress, changed into a sky blue bikini, and soaked in the pool for almost ten minutes. I felt my body become flushed and sweat forming on my forehead, so I wrapped myself in a towel and opened the door.

Standing in front of the neighboring door, I took two deep breaths.

Then with a strong push, Gao Sheng came into view, shirtless.

“Oh, sorry! I didn’t know someone was inside!”

I pretended to panic and made a gesture to close the door.

“Come back!”

My heart trembled. It seemed like there was a chance.

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Only when I fixed my gaze on him did I finally notice that there were multiple musclemen surrounding me in the room.

But it was too late now.

I recognized Gao Sheng when I passed by him earlier, he was staring at me from outside the room.

That’s why I took my time in the room, creating the opportunity for a moment alone with him.

I pretended to be surprised: “What are you looking at? Today, I didn’t take your equipment.”

I said as I picked up my towel and bottle, and walked straight out.

When I reached his side, he grabbed my wrist. Before I could make a sound, his index finger was already at my lips.

I had never been this close to him before. Looking at his newly grown stubble and his erect posture, smelling the complex fragrance emanating from him, I couldn’t tell whether my own heartbeat or his was louder.

“What are you doing?” I asked impatiently.

His eyes narrowed to a slit, and suddenly, he gave a wicked smile and said, “What do you think?”

His warm breath sprayed onto my face, instantly igniting every strand of my hair.

I looked up at his face, straight into his high, prominent cheekbones, and took in the layered scent on him. I couldn’t resist peeking at his…

“Yes, you finally kissed me, but you made it so difficult,” he said with a cold expression.

He put on his usual poker face again, and his eyes pierced through like flying knives.

I was stunned, my heart shaking violently.

I had just wanted to explain a few words, but he slapped me across the face.

“You scheming woman!”

My eyes were stinging, and my chest felt like it had been struck hard.

I was just about to argue, but then, another slap landed on my other cheek.

“You bitch!”

My eyes welled up with tears, and my chest felt like it had taken a heavy blow.

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The more I read, the more captivated I became. The continuous twists at the end were so shocking that I was dumbfounded…

You can’t imagine that romance can be written like this…

After reading it, I can only say “Holy shit!” I’ve never seen such an outrageous plot before!

The Effects of Love: The Pygmalion Effect

I believe that this effect truly exists.

I have seen many guys who, after having a girlfriend, greatly improve their sense of fashion and undergo a significant style transformation. It’s not that they become fashionable because they have a girlfriend, but rather because their girlfriend gives them a lot of suggestions.

My boyfriend’s dressing style has been greatly influenced by me. Before we started dating, he liked wearing tight-fitting clothes. However, after being with me, he also started liking loose-fitting clothes because I prefer them.

He used to think that wearing clothes that fit closely made him look more energetic. Now, he finds loose-fitting clothes more comfortable.

Being together is actually a process of mutual adaptation, where both individuals influence each other.

There is also another effect at play in romantic relationships, known as the Pygmalion effect.

This effect is also called the expectation effect.

The Pygmalion effect refers to the expectations and predictions formed by people based on a certain context, gradually causing that context to adapt to those expectations and predictions. Simply put, you get what you expect, not necessarily what you want. This means that people’s emotions, ideas, and behaviors can be influenced to varying degrees by others' subconscious influence.

Praise, compliments, and expectations from a partner can act as an invisible force that pushes the other person towards the direction they are expected to go.

Therefore, when we approach love with a skeptical mindset, even if it has the potential to develop in a positive direction, it will ultimately be destroyed by your doubts. Conversely, if we approach love with a belief in its potential, even if it may initially develop in a negative direction, it can ultimately be redeemed through our belief.

I hope that all lovers can continue to grow and become increasingly harmonious and compatible.