A Perfect Day for You?

After watching the first season of “36 Questions” for the third time and witnessing the breakdown, it was interesting. Zhang Shuo truly deserves his reputation as a linguistic giant, but he failed in the realm of language.

I truly don’t think Zhang Shuo loves Wang Shuishui as much as he believes, while Wang Shuishui has a clear conscience when it comes to love, but she is half-blind in her love.

Under the influence of Wang Shuishui’s sister and Chen Ming’s criticism, Zhang Shuo started to change. Wang Shuishui was torn, and in the short two days after their separation, Zhang Shuo relaxed and returned to the state he was in during the first two episodes of the show.

[What is your perfect day like?]

Zhang Shuo: Surprise, a sense of ceremony, happiness.

Wang Shuishui: Zhang Shuo’s birthday in the first year of university, Zhang Shuo’s birthday in the second year of university, Zhang Shuo’s birthday one year after graduation.

When I put myself in Zhang Shuo’s shoes, I strongly feel that the surprise and sense of ceremony are what he receives, but what makes him happy is the surprise and sense of ceremony prepared by Shuishui for him.

In the three tags that make up a perfect day, besides happiness, the surprise and sense of ceremony come from others, from what others have prepared for him. As long as he is happy, that is enough for him.

Zhang Shuo says, “First of all, it’s the wedding day.”

Big brother, do you remember what the main issue was in your arguments in the first two episodes? It was the wedding day and the wedding fiasco that happened on that day!

This day, which is far from perfect in Wang Shuishui’s heart and even something she wants to change, is the perfect day in your mind because you put more effort into preparing for the wedding.

[What is one thing you would like to change in your past experiences?]

PapiJiang’s friendly reminder: The answer is in the previous question. Unfortunately, Zhang Shuo doesn’t take the wedding fiasco seriously.

Zhang Shuo: I would like to change the fact that I ran away from home in my second year of junior high school. I would study hard instead and have good grades.

Wang Shuishui: If I could change something, I hope that incident didn’t happen on our wedding day.

One wants to change their own stubbornness and running away from home when they were young, which probably affected their studies. But this matter only concerns him.

One wants to change the wedding fiasco, which not only involves the two of them but also innocent bridesmaids and friends.

Zhang Shuo, in this situation, still mentions, “If that didn’t happen, that day should have been a perfect day, right?” Don’t keep thinking about your perfect day, reality is that things happened and it is no longer perfect.

[What qualities did you used to desire in a partner, and what new understandings do you have now?]

There was one part that made me laugh. Zhang Shuo, you’re good at speaking, right? What does this mean? It implies that Shuishui is not kind, gentle, considerate, and has a bad temper???

Zhang Shuo, you’ve really hit Shuishui’s pain points, and you’ve also hit mine as a viewer.

[Name three things you have in common with each other]

Oh, it seems that Shuishui is not unkind, because Zhang Shuo said the three things they have in common are: kindness, laziness, and enthusiasm for life.

Zhang Shuo also feels that Shuishui’s answer is superficial, but in fact, Shuishui is just being more specific, and these specifics are closely related to their relationship.

As for defining laziness, after Shuishui gives an example, Zhang Shuo still has a smile on his face and delivers the final blow, “lazy to put in effort.”

When it came to the things they wanted to do together, it was very natural that both said Thailand. Zhang Shuo really is a sieve, so full of loopholes. He takes the initiative to say, “Let’s move on to the next question,” and gets a response of “Why?” Then, he delivers a devastating blow, “Why did you go with them before we went together?”

For Zhang Shuo, these 36 questions are like one trap after another, one thunderstorm after another, and he steps on every thunderstorm.

Next, the flower incident that caused Wang Shuishui to pause the recording came up, and I didn’t understand it either. When it comes to giving flowers or gifts to friends, Zhang Shuo is always proactive and decisive, but when it comes to giving flowers or gifts to his wife, he has to first consider whether she wants them or not because he’s afraid of giving something she won’t like. Is it really that difficult to care about your wife as much as you do for your friends?

Zhang Shuo gives a personal example as a comparison: If the act of giving flowers is moved to the time when we choose where to eat, would you prefer that I just take you to eat without asking if you want to eat a particular dish?

Help! Are these two things the same? It’s a pure case of switching concepts! Don’t make false comparisons if you can’t compare! Saying this and that, why don’t you just do it? Like the guest in the observation room said, there are flowers right at the entrance, just pick them! Zhang Shuo, you truly are “young”, not “youth”.

As for the recognition of one’s efforts, in my opinion, it is not contradictory to give affirmation in both words and actions. Shuishui asks Zhang Shuo to choose between the two, but he can’t decide, so Shuishui gets up and leaves. Shuishui’s anger and departure here is because her emotions couldn’t be contained after answering the previous questions.

Comparing giving flowers to choosing a restaurant, as a viewer, it seems like a joke, but as someone involved, Shuishui feels wronged and disrespected. Zhang Shuo, as the other party, says that he didn’t mean it the way Shuishui interpreted it.

They continue with the thirty-six questions, both with emotions running high, and in the end, the first thing they both give up is love.

When they reveal two things they don’t like about each other, they both use the word “hate” instead of “dislike.”

“You win with your three things.”

“I suggest we skip this question. I don’t want to hear it.”

I have to say, Wang Shuishui’s attacks are really strong! Zhang Shuo feels wronged and bursts into tears. When he hears Shuishui say, “We’re done for today,” his subsequent expressions and words become a mess, inconsistent with his thoughts.

Zhang Shuo truly never thought that Wang Shuishui would leave his life, and when he realizes that the possibility of Shuishui leaving is about to become a reality, he continuously seeks a definite answer. I’m quite curious, if Shuishui had just said, “Yes, we’re done,” would he still try to hold onto her?

Deleting painful memories, Zhang Shuo initially says he wants to erase all the memories after the night before the wedding. After changing his answer, he then says he wants to redo the wedding day.

First, he denies married life, and then he contradicts his previous answers about the perfect day. Zhang Shuo, you can take some time to think before answering, no one is rushing you.

Don’t make decisions based on emotions and don’t say things that will influence decisions based on emotions!

In the final four-minute eye contact, when I see Shuishui coming over with two paper bags, I think, “Ah, Shuishui has prepared gifts.”

When I see Shuishui take out a school uniform from one of the bags, put on a high ponytail, and clip on a butterfly hairpin, I think, “Ah, Shuishui is recreating their school days, how ritualistic.”

When I see Shuishui hand the other school uniform to Zhang Shuo, the BGM from those years plays, and I think, “Going back or not going back to those days of youth, they are no longer young.”

This is a marvelous scene. Shuishui steps out of the world where Zhang Shuo is and takes off the school uniform, lets her hair down, and puts on a beautiful dress. Without looking back, she walks forward.

She has grown up.

He stays in the same spot.

This time, it is still Wang Shuishui who prepares, the surprise, the sense of ceremony.

Only this time, there is no happiness.

Final Thoughts on the Relationships

Lu and Fu: Liu will most likely not get off the show for fear of criticism, while Fu wants to separate. Wang and Ji: Both will probably get off the show, with Wang wanting a submissive Ji. Wang and Zhang: It’s hard to predict their decision, but it wouldn’t be surprising for both to leave the show. The last couple’s situation is unpredictable, but they both have unique dynamics. The Next Episode, It’s the Last Episode, of Course There Should be an Analysis in Advance, that’s Interesting.

Lao Liu and Fu Seoul

I believe smart children have already figured it out, Lao Liu still deeply loves Fu Seoul, but Fu Seoul wants to separate.

So, personally, I think Lao Liu shouldn’t get off the bus for the sake of face and for Fu Seoul. Because if he gets off and Fu Seoul doesn’t, Fu Seoul will be scolded.

Of course, if Lao Liu gets off, then I would think this is the best ending. Because Lao Liu finally decides to follow his own heart.

As for Fu Seoul, I feel that she will most likely not get off the bus, because her attitude has already been clearly expressed, which is to separate. If she really doesn’t get off, then at least she has followed her heart and achieved what she wanted.

But if she betrays for the so-called “deep love character,” that would be really disgusting. (Just to clarify: I’m not saying that Fu Seoul can’t get off the bus, I mean that in the case of her getting off the bus, she later separates from Lao Liu)

Wang Shiqing and Lao Ji

They will most likely get off the bus.

What Wang Shiqing wants is an obedient Lao Ji. Congratulations to Wang Shiqing, under the brainwashing of herself, her mother, and the guests on the show, Lao Ji has become the exact thing Wang Shiqing wants.

If they separate, then what Wang Shiqing will get is a “ungrateful hypocrite” character.

But if they don’t separate, she will not only get an obedient Lao Ji, but also the “deep love character” of someone who knows that Lao Ji is stubborn and irritable yet doesn’t abandon him.

Lao Ji always says things like “I’ve let it go” and “let it be”…

But isn’t it because Wang Shiqing is someone who “relies on the love of others without fear”?

Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo

The two most difficult-to-predict people, I don’t find it strange whatever decision they make.

After all, not everyone is like Shuishui who, instead of choosing to separate from Zhang Shuo, chooses to drive themselves insane and torment each other for three years.

Also, not everyone can be like Zhang Shuo, who under Shuishui’s high-intensity negative energy output, can kneel at lightning speed every time, but never changes.

If I have to predict: I guess Shuishui won’t get off, but Zhang Shuo will.

When Shuishui asks School Uniform Shuo “Do we look alike?” it signifies the end of this relationship. Otherwise, with Wang Shuishui’s romantic brain and sense of ceremony, she would say: “Hello, let me introduce myself again, my name is Wang Shuishui.”

And Zhang Shuo, in order to maintain his “devoted boyfriend” character, will definitely get off the bus.

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If you consider Zhang Shuo as a romantic partner when watching this show, then the growth of that tumor in your heart would be truly visible to the naked eye; but if you see Bafei Shuo as a joke, the air around you seems to become cheerful.

Unlike the previous two groups of guests, this group is not a deeply emotional and touching “36 Questions,” no need to prepare tissues, you can watch it with peace of mind.

Because this is a merciless interrogation for Bafei Shuo.

I believe that compared to facing the verbal attacks from Wang Shuishui head-on, Bafei Shuo would rather be directly punched by her while rolling her eyes.

Bafei Shuo is really funny, when he went to hit the railing, he hit it twice and found it hurts, so he switched to tapping the railing with his hand.

How to evaluate the 12th episode of the third season of “Goodbye lover” (part 1)?

After watching this episode, my biggest feeling is that “sometimes it feels helpless to watch variety shows alone.” Once again, I want to thank the production team for putting Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo in the twelfth episode. If they had been put in the previous episode after the crying and torment of the other two couples, my mental state might not be very good right now.

After watching the argument between the first two people, my whole mood was like this↓

After watching the part where they go their separate ways… I didn’t even have the desire to write anymore and even thought about directly skipping their analysis from before. To be honest, my views may not be in line with the viewers who only criticize Zhang Shuo. I think that in the past two weeks, they both have made almost no progress, completely matching my analysis of them in the previous five episodes.

They make me go back to the starting point when I first started watching them; all I can say is to never forget the original intention.

So, let’s talk about how Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo messed up the thirty-six questions.

Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo’s Thirty-Six Questions - Let Them Break Down the Southern Wall

First, let’s talk about the state of the two of them facing the thirty-six questions.

Lao Liu and Fu Shou’er were most likely going to divorce, so they wanted to look back at the good times in order to make the ending look better. Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo, on the other hand, did not want to divorce, so they had to bring up the past to determine if this marriage could still continue. This is also one of the reasons why they messed up the thirty-six questions; the past issues were not resolved at all.

You can see the state they are in from the questions they asked each other.

Wang Shuishui: Have you ever wanted to save us? Am I that important to you? Zhang Shuo: Is it because of today’s thirty-six questions that you no longer want to be with me?

Wang Shuishui wanted to use the thirty-six questions to confirm Zhang Shuo’s love for her. If she couldn’t confirm it, she might choose to give up, so naturally she took on a defensive posture.

Zhang Shuo, on the other hand, wanted to use the thirty-six questions to win back Wang Shuishui. He just wanted a definite answer, so he was the one taking the offensive, behaving very aggressively from the beginning.

At the same time, they both had an overly perfect imagination and ending for the thirty-six questions - that they would reconcile and solve all their worries, living happily ever after like a prince and princess.

Sometimes, when the imagination is too beautiful, reality can be particularly cruel.

To be honest, I never thought that they would mess up the entire thirty-six questions from the very first question, and that the marriage turmoil would come back to haunt them. (I originally didn’t want to include the text version, but this part is very typical for them.)

“What does a perfect day mean to you?”

Shuishui: Zhang Shuo’s birthday in my freshman year, Zhang Shuo’s birthday in my sophomore year, Zhang Shuo’s birthday a year after graduation. [As I said before, Zhang Shuo worked so hard to chase after his goddess, and when her love grew, his love faded. Then Wang Shuishui started to crazily give, how could she accept such a change in him?] Shuo: The day of the wedding. [I don’t understand this answer.] Shuishui: The day of the wedding is not the most perfect day in my heart. (Her expectations for the thirty-six questions were too high, and they didn’t match her imagination. Zhang Shuo started to break down.) Shuo: How do you envision a perfect day in your heart? Shuishui: It’s a day filled with pure happiness and moved emotions, without any other feelings mixed in. At least I have done that for your birthday. I told myself that if I invest in something without getting anything in return, I should stop doing it. But I couldn’t help but prepare for your birthday. I think I have principles, but it seems like I have lost many of them because of you. [A new definition of principles] Shuo: I thought about it, and the day that meets my three conditions - “surprise, ceremony, and happiness” (as I mentioned earlier) - I really can’t think of a day that I could do for you. [Zhang Shuo used a bunch of nonsense words here]

What kind of mindset does Zhang Shuo have to say that the wedding day is a perfect day, and then ask Shuishui what her perfect day is, when she just answered that already? It shows that he wasn’t even listening to what Shuishui was saying. And he created a trap for himself with those three conditions he mentioned earlier, it’s quite amazing.

Wang Shuishui has always been puzzled about why all the surprises disappeared after Zhang Shuo pursued her, and even buying flowers and gifts required her permission. She couldn’t understand it and saw it as an insult.

It’s quite simple, Zhang Shuo is just like a child. When a child really wants a toy, they will throw tantrums and do everything they can to get that toy. “Having the ‘beloved’ toy” becomes the entire meaning of their life at that moment. In Zhang Shuo’s subconscious mind, getting that toy is the greatest meaning for the toy. However, once he has the toy, it becomes meaningless to him. Especially when the toy keeps making demands and he tries to fulfill them (giving gifts), but still gets criticized, the spoiled child no longer wants to bother meeting the other person’s needs. Therefore, his efforts are conditional. (And he doesn’t even realize that he’s doing all this; he simply doesn’t think about it.)

But why does he stick around Shuishui? Of course, it’s because of the remaining love and effort Shuishui has given him, the sunk cost, Shuishui’s love and efforts towards him, and the fact that he can’t find anyone better than Shuishui. (Of course, I don’t think this is a calculated decision, it’s just human nature to seek benefit and avoid harm.)

So why do I say the first question set the tone for the thirty-six questions?

Because I always believed that the marriage turmoil was already a deadlock, and the way they handled the marriage turmoil affected every aspect of their relationship. From their constant arguing in the past few episodes, we can see that this is their pattern of dealing with each other. (The following analysis is from my previous response, the complete analysis is available in another answer)

Wang Shuishui and Zhang Shuo - Torturing each other, with no solution, but still in love with each other

[Previous analysis omitted]

So, as soon as the marriage turmoil is mentioned, they revert to their previous communication pattern, and the thirty-six questions are no exception–

Zhang Shuo is only trying to please Shuishui and avoid the consequence of divorce and her emotions by guessing what she wants to hear (like an essay exam). Especially when Shuishui talks to him calmly, he can understand her soft spots.

But when Shuishui gets angry (like getting a fever during an exam), Zhang Shuo becomes passive, trying to fix and make up for mistakes. For example, the comparison between choosing a restaurant and giving gifts, he didn’t know how to respond, so he brought up something else as a make-up plan, patching up the holes. He wasn’t intentionally starting an argument, his mind just couldn’t keep up.

I don’t want to defend Zhang Shuo, but Shuishui both wants Zhang Shuo to change and doesn’t give him space. She wants Zhang Shuo to do more and say less, but always unconsciously acknowledges his excessive talking. As a result, it’s a constant cycle of suffocation for both of them.

Personally, I think they have a lot in common, such as:

First, they both have a talent for driving each other crazy, and they both passively enjoy seeing each other go crazy.

What is meant by passively enjoying it? It means that “I don’t intentionally want to drive you crazy, but when I’m going crazy and I see that you are too, I feel slightly better.” They both have a calm expression when they see each other going crazy.

Second, they both care about what the other person is saying, and it’s not enough for Shuishui that Zhang Shuo shows action.

Third, they both love to argue and focus on their own thoughts and feelings.

Fourth, they have some love for each other (to some extent), but this love is mixed with a bit of self-gratification. Of course, Shuishui definitely loves Zhang Shuo more than Zhang Shuo loves her, because Shuishui has matured emotionally.

Fifth, they both fail to truly understand and accept each other and understand each other’s true needs.

Many times, we find ourselves in seemingly unsolvable situations because we don’t want to let ourselves go, nor do we want to let go of the other person. So we end up torturing each other, driving each other crazy, and telling ourselves that this problem is unsolvable, and eventually deciding to break up or reluctantly continue.

Observation crew in variety shows?

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One-sided views prevail among the observers of “Goodbye My Lover 3”. Papi Jiang is the only one who offers different opinions. She emphasizes facts, solution-oriented approach, without gender privilege. Her marriage has survived despite others being single or divorced. Who has more guiding significance?

Similar to others, Papi Jiang’s marriage faced challenges. But instead of blaming her husband, she found a way to strengthen their bond by spending time together doing something they both enjoy. Respecting each other’s needs and making positive changes is the only way.

Her ability to remain calm and objective, even when called “cold-blooded”, is what sets her apart. She is a beautiful and talented woman who writes her own script.

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One-sided

The observers of “Goodbye Love 3” are truly extraordinary.

First of all, sitting in the center is Melody, who is not familiar to inland audiences but became famous through a divorce news.

Before this, she was the rumored prototype of Tao Zhe’s song “Melody” and also a funny lady who liked mixing Chinese and English on the show “Kangxi Coming”.

Although Melody later worked with “the Absurd Master” Shen Yulin to create a variety show, her hosting skills were really not up to par, and the effect of the show mainly relied on Shen Yulin.

Now, Melody has transformed herself and become the main guest in inland variety shows, but her ability to control the stage and her fan base are completely lacking.

Audiences can’t help but ask, why is she even qualified?

Huang Zhizhong is an old member of “Qu Fasuo” and has no problem expressing himself verbally, but after his magnificent rhetoric and constant output, people often don’t understand what he is saying. Maybe the strength of an experienced debater lies in the fact that he says whatever he wants, and if you think something is wrong, what can you do about it?

Li Songwei appeared as a professional in the field, but he feels like someone who has a deep social anxiety. He likes to use professional terms and authoritative theories, but in reality, he’s just a bookworm who recites knowledge verbatim.

Sun Yi is the representative of the audience on site, who follows the plot with a mix of joy and sorrow. Besides stirring up emotions, she rarely expresses any valuable viewpoints.

Hu Yanbin is slightly better than the previous few, as he can catch some points that the others haven’t noticed, but the bigger picture tends to be the same.

However, even with such a large number of observers, hardly any different opinions can be heard. After watching a segment of the plot, the opinions are surprisingly unanimous, sympathizing with the woman and blaming the man—did they all receive the same script?

Finally, audiences simply skip over the segments where the observers speak, to avoid trouble caused by these “biased” observers.

A Single Voice

Among these people, the only one who dares to have a different voice is Papi Jiang.

Compared to the unanimous opinions of others, Papi Jiang truly fulfills her duty as an “observer” by discussing matters objectively and impartially.

In addition to observing the guests, Papi Jiang doesn’t spare the members of the observer group either.

Sun Yi said she got married quickly because she was afraid of being alone. Melody said her husband asked “Are you okay?” after she gave birth, then went for a massage.

Papi Jiang said: In a marriage, being a husband or wife is just a role, a responsibility, it doesn’t mean that he should become your sugar daddy, or that he must always coax you, hug you, or comfort you.

Fu Shou’er said that she and Lao Liu only have kinship and friendship left, no longer love.

Papi Jiang said: In a marriage, don’t always expect the other person to provide intense emotional value. Whether it’s familial love or passionate love, as long as this person treats you well, that is love.

Wang Shiqing said Lao Ji doesn’t socialize, always stays at home, and she no longer admires him.

Papi Jiang said: In a marriage, both sides should not have one person being too idle. Being too idle will lead to distance between the two and hinder communication.

Based on facts, solving problems, not emphasizing gender privilege, and not being impatient or crossing boundaries, this is Papi Jiang’s view on marriage.

Some people consider this kind of speech to be “clear-headed,” while others think it’s “too cold-blooded.”

But among the other members of the observer group, they are either single or divorced, while Papi Jiang’s marriage still continues. Whose words are more instructive?

One Path

Papi Jiang’s marriage has not always been smooth sailing.

Before she became famous, she was also jobless after graduating, relying on Lao Hu to support her while pursuing her master’s degree.

Lao Hu had no complaints, but told her: You must have something to do.

Papi Jiang started doing self-media and gradually became a phenomenon-level internet celebrity, with her income skyrocketing, until one day Lao Hu said: I feel like something is wrong with myself.

Papi Jiang didn’t blame Lao Hu for not keeping up with her, nor did she flaunt that she is the one supporting the family now. She simply found a way to improve their relationship—no matter how busy she is, every week she must find half a day to do something together with Lao Hu.

Whether it’s watching a movie or having hot pot, it’s just a time for the two of them to be alone.

Even the best partner can’t always be perfectly synchronized and passionate forever. Relationships require constant effort and adjustment from both sides. Respecting the needs of your partner, providing your help, and using positive changes instead of negative blame is the only way.

What others call “cold-blooded” is actually the calmness and objectivity that ordinary people can’t achieve.

A “woman who combines beauty and talent,” writing her own script.

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The Most Representative Couple: Wang Shuishui & Zhang Shuo

This season, the most noticeable change in perception is seen in the couple 王睡睡 & 张硕.

Although all three couples experienced personal growth, it is the couple王睡睡 that stands out the most.

*Note: Here, “personal growth” refers to subjective perspectives and does not necessarily imply that the female partner is stronger than the male partner. After all, there is no standard path in life or a unified measure of success.

The Outcome of the Zhang Shuo and Wang Shuishui Relationship: Different Worldviews

I specifically subscribed to VIP to watch this couple, Zhang Shuo and Wang Shuishi, sleep together~

It was almost a foregone conclusion that they would fall apart after 36 questions~

Because the greatest distance in the world is between two minds that think differently~

And one’s values are shaped by their family and life experiences over a decade or two. How is it possible for them to change in just a short span of ten days?

The 36 questions are about the values of two people. Has Zhang Shuo revealed his true self yet?

Actually, Zhang Shuo hasn’t changed. He has always been the same. It’s just that when they were younger and in love, they didn’t think too deeply about many things. They would get upset, but would forgive each other after an apology~

But people grow up. Wang Shuishi has grown up and learned to see people, to understand the importance of shared values in a relationship. This marital dispute suddenly made her realize that the person she had loved for many years didn’t share the same values as her. But after being together for so long, with emotions intertwined and youth invested, she couldn’t bear to let go. So, she held onto this matter because she needed to see Zhang Shuo do something to prove to herself that she didn’t make a mistake in choosing him~

But Zhang Shuo is not a person who shares the same values as her. The thoughts in his mind are different from hers~ Even if he tries every possible way to cooperate and please her in order to keep her from leaving, it’s just an imitation. He’s just becoming the person she wants him to be~ She’s not foolish enough to not see through it. It becomes a cycle of her getting angry repeatedly~

36 questions are great. She can finally gather her courage and admit defeat~ Wishing her the best~

“Do not want to separate easily”

“We came out of the same campus and entered this city, and it has been such a long time since then. I don’t want us to easily part ways.”

Zhang Shuo and Wang Shui Shui’s 36 questions: Misunderstandings and Hardship.

Zhang Shuo and Wang Shuishui’s 36 Questions

I feel like I can understand what Zhang Shuo originally wanted to express in each sentence, but he is really not good at speaking and is also foolish.

Originally, many of his answers were aimed at pleasing Shuishui. Words like “ceremony,” “surprise,” and other such terms. I thought he was thinking about what Shuishui likes, that a perfect day should have these things. It seemed more like a longing, an attempt to cater to and please Shuishui. But Shuishui didn’t understand it that way and then responded with a few words that confused him.

A perfect day is a wedding. In his mind, he only remembered that the wedding was an important day for the both of them. After all, Shuishui said that Zhang Shuo took care of everything, big or small, related to the wedding. He was happy to marry the person he liked and then forgot about the most unbearable teasing during the wedding… It’s best not to mention it.

Going to Thailand for a trip, he was initially happy that his answer matched the other person’s and he even felt a sense of connection. But he forgot that he had also made a big blunder in this matter.

The analogy of not giving Shuishui flowers and choosing a restaurant. He was afraid of making mistakes. In fact, from many things, it can be seen that Zhang Shuo is especially afraid of not receiving positive feedback from Shuishui after doing something or putting in effort. So when he said earlier that he needed Shuishui’s affirmation, he was afraid that the flowers he gave would be criticized as ugly and not understanding her preferences, and he would be scolded. Because when giving something to someone else, others wouldn’t reject him. He wouldn’t feel pressured and would just give it directly. But when giving it to Shuishui, he was afraid that she wouldn’t like it and felt pressured, so he kept delaying it and eventually chose to ignore it and not do it.

Talking about the qualities of an ideal partner and newfound understanding, what he originally wanted to express was that he used to think that girls should be this and that, but now those standards have become less important because I love you. And then, I don’t know how his mouth became so foolish… The whole conversation turned into picking faults with Shuishui.

The most wanted memory to be deleted. Because Zhang Shuo felt that Shuishui brought up the wedding teasing again earlier, he felt that once he made a mistake in that matter, it would be impossible to recover. His way of thinking is very straightforward: since he made a mistake, why not start over? I will definitely not make this mistake again. I will do it perfectly. But he didn’t expect that Shuishui would reply by saying that these two years after getting married were the two years she put in the most effort, and he actually wanted to delete all of it… When I saw that, I was worried for him…

Shuishui said that he has always been arguing, but from my perspective, it’s not that. He is actually trying to please her, but he buried too many landmines in the past. He brings up one issue, and another one explodes. He can’t avoid these landmines, and his way of thinking is not as swift as Shuishui’s. He completely loses control when she argues with him a few times… and his mentality collapses.

And Shuishui, a woman can have a stubborn mouth and a stubborn heart, she can have a soft mouth and a stubborn heart, she can have a soft mouth and a soft heart, but if she has a stubborn mouth and a soft heart, she will really suffer…

Reflection on the Characters: Fu Shouer, Lao Ji, Shi Qing, Sleep Sleep, Zhang Shuo, and Lao Liu.

Let’s make some predictions:

Fu Seo won’t get off the bus, Lao Liu will.

Lao Ji and Shi Qing will both get off the bus.

Shui Shui won’t get off the bus, Zhang Shuo will.

— This is the dividing line —

Thoughts after finishing the 36 Questions:

I feel sorry for the childhood of Fu Seo and Lao Ji, there are many similarities. Both were abandoned by their father or mother and both are afraid of being abandoned.

But Fu Seo has grown up, grown to the point where she no longer needs someone to take care of her daily life or provide emotional support. What she needs is someone who can help her with her career.

Lao Ji’s desire for love, the changes he is willing to make for love, are more than he imagined, stronger even.

The future of Shi Qing and Lao Ji depends on Shi Qing. If Shi Qing longs for strength and sees Lao Ji as no longer being strong, coupled with the influence of their “control and counter-control” dynamic, I think they can only continue if Shi Qing can discover something different about Lao Ji.

When Shui Shui put on the school uniform and tied the butterfly bow on her head, tears couldn’t help but fall from my eyes. Although she speaks sharp words, she has a kind heart and is always waiting for someone who resonates with her, unwilling to completely break someone’s heart.

But congratulations to Shui Shui, she finally sees the huge differences between her and Zhang Shuo through the 36 Questions. As the saying goes, Shui Shui, run away quickly, Zhang Shuo doesn’t really love you that much.

As for Zhang Shuo, I never thought he realized his true problem. What he needs is to deeply reflect on all aspects of life, not be swayed by others' questioning, and sufficiently demonstrate that his opinions are not formed without self-examination and deliberation. He should say what he thinks based on the current situation.

Lao Liu is a very relaxed person, able to face and accept setbacks and joys calmly. I always feel that this kind of person is very likable. Wishing you well.

Communication Difficulties: Wang Shuishui’s Unrealistic Expectations

I finally had a chance to see how difficult it is to communicate with Wang Shuishui from Zhang Shuo’s perspective.

In the previous questions, Zhang Shuo has been expressing his true thoughts. He said that a beautiful day should have a sense of ceremony, and his wedding day would probably be the most ceremonious day for Wang Shuishui. But obviously, Wang Shuishui completely rejected it. She didn’t accept Zhang Shuo’s true self, including his feelings. And she always gets hung up on trivial matters. After Zhang Shuo realized that she was angry, he became cautious in his answers, testing and hesitating with each question. He then started trying to please Wang Shuishui instead of answering honestly.

Wang Shuishui would resort to personal attacks after saying a few words. Zhang Shuo putting love last implies that she is not important, which is really frustrating. I think if I were in this situation, I would also lose my temper. Many observers are attacking Zhang Shuo, but in fact, it’s not surprising at all that their criticism is directed at Wang Shuishui. It’s obvious that Wang Shuishui doesn’t love the real Zhang Shuo, but someone who exists only in her imagination, someone who can always be nice to her and please her.

She expects Zhang Shuo to do things that she imagines a partner should do. She demonstrated it herself, hoping that the other person could do the same and fulfill her fantasies. Honestly, she can only find someone who fits her mental template and be with them, but does such a person really exist?

On the other hand, let’s look at the couple next door, Xi Mengyao and He Youjun. Xi Mengyao also has clear standards, but when He Youjun understands her thoughts and acts accordingly, she doesn’t blame him for anything or withhold things for no reason like Wang Shuishui does. Instead, she gladly accepts it and finds it efficient. One can only say that those who are able to find happiness in life are definitely not fussy people. Wang Shuishui really needs to mature.