Have you encountered anyone in life who is particularly skilled at social interactions?

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Dec 24, 2023

The provided paragraphs are written in Chinese. Here is the translation in English:

During a period in college, we had very few classes, about five a week, and we all went wild, spending all day in the dorm playing poker, reading leisure books, or grouping up for all-night gaming sessions in internet cafes.

The study atmosphere deteriorated to such an extent that when exams approached and we feared failing, we decided to cram desperately but couldn’t find a single textbook in the dorm.

Not to mention the state of the dormitory, dirty socks and torn underwear everywhere, unfinished boxed meals piled up on the balcony creating small hills, eventually attracting a lot of rats. We wouldn’t have cleaned up if we weren’t afraid of rat bites.

At this time, a new student transferred to our class, a tall and handsome guy who was assigned to our dormitory.

We all thought that after hanging out with us for a while, he would become like us, “influenced by proximity to red or black,” but unexpectedly he was “like a lotus flower unstained by mud, and a pure stream amidst its clarity,” picking up a mop as soon as he arrived and started cleaning. It was December, and he was sweating profusely in a T-shirt, busy cleaning and taking out the trash. He cleaned the whole dormitory so well that when the guy who slept on the bunk above me came back, he apologized thinking he had entered the wrong room, only to realize we were all there, his mouth agape in disbelief.

We were all night owls, playing until midnight and unable to wake up like dead fish the next day. He was different; he got up early every morning for a run, then headed to the library to study or sometimes attended lectures at another campus. By the time we were sound asleep, he had already accomplished several tasks.

As for his personal demeanor, he was always spirited and neatly dressed, standing straight and tall, while we were the opposite with messy hair, either dirty or torn clothes, and dark circles like a panda’s relative. In his presence, we felt like complete opposites, so much so that we decided to pull him into our familiar territory and corrupt him with our extensive experience.

One evening, we invited him to play cards. He reluctantly agreed out of politeness, and we deliberately played until 2 am, curious to see if he could still wake up early. To our surprise, he still went for his morning run at 8 am and even brought back breakfast for us from the canteen, causing us a sense of despair.

Then we devised another plan. We started playing basketball every day, leaving the dorm messy with jerseys, shoes, and drink bottles everywhere, thinking he wouldn’t have the patience to clean every day. Yet, he proved us wrong. No matter how messy we made the dorm, it would be spotless within an hour of his return.

As exams approached and everyone feared failing due to attending very few classes throughout the semester, he went to the library to gather materials and highlighted potential exam topics for us, saying, “There’s not much time; focus on what I’ve marked, and you should be fine.”

We were skeptical, but once at the exam and seeing the paper, we realized he was spot on. We left the exam hall elated, relieved that we wouldn’t have to retake the exams.

At first, we thought he was pretentiously noble, but at that moment, we truly admired him. He was the epitome of the saying, “A modest gentleman, as mild as jade,” not swayed by a harsh environment or deterred by others' negativity, firmly walking his own path.

Incredibly, spending time with him gradually changed our habits; we started waking up earlier, visiting the library more often, and transitioning from the headache of the class to moderately good students. By graduation, half of us got into graduate schools, and the other half found jobs. It might not have been all due to him, but without his influence, we would have been much worse off.

Before parting, we brothers from the dorm went out for drinks and shared our goodbyes, a bit tipsy. I asked him, considering the way we treated him when he first arrived, why he never got angry.

He countered with a question, “If a family had ten sons, and the other nine were idle, as the tenth son, what would you do?”

After a moment of thought, I said, “I would definitely escape this environment or become like the rest; why should I work hard to support these idlers?”

He smiled, took a sip of his drink, and said, “If it were me, I would work even harder because otherwise, all my brothers would starve. If they could be influenced to work together, the family could prosper.” This story, he said, originated from a saying by Mozi in the Spring and Autumn period, emphasizing the Mohist philosophy of self-sacrifice and influencing others through one’s moral conduct, especially in difficult times, even if it means pursuing the impossible.

As the evening breeze blew, looking into his clear and earnest eyes, I finally understood him, feeling a mix of shock and admiration.

If there’s no one ahead to lead the way, then rush forward and become the example.

If all around is darkness, then be the sole light.

Upon reflection, everyone should aspire to this.

The provided paragraphs are in Chinese. Here is the translation in English:

I have a classmate in my master’s program who has an exceptionally high EQ and is very adept at interpersonal relations. Let me give you an example from life.

One day, we ended up wearing the same new pair of shoes, what you might call “shoe twins.”

My wife noticed and found it odd, so she asked him, “How much did your shoes cost?”

He lifted his left foot, showing off one shoe, and said, “300.”

My wife, looking a bit agitated, turned to me and exclaimed, “What’s going on, you told me your shoes were 600?”

My classmate glanced at me, then lifted his right foot and said, “And the right foot, this one is also 300.”

That’s what it means to be considerate, never putting others in an awkward position.

The provided text is in Chinese. Here is the translation in English:

I went to the hospital with a buddy to visit a patient. The elevator was full of people, and I suddenly wanted to tease him, so I said to him, “Have you had your circumcision surgery yet?” Then everyone in the elevator looked at him, and I was internally laughing.

But my buddy calmly looked at me and said, “That patient’s surgery is scheduled for the afternoon. I’ll arrange a time for you right after I’m done with his. I’m sorry to have kept you waiting for so long.

The provided paragraphs are written in Chinese.

“I know of a girl who is very skilled in dealing with people.

She is as beautiful as a flower, gentle as water, and especially adept at handling people.

One day, she used clay to create people. She made yellow people from yellow clay, white people from white clay, and black people from black clay.

Later, when she got tired, she used a rope to flick the mud, and it also turned into people. Her craftsmanship was truly exquisite.

It is said that the mud people she molded by hand became nobility, while the ones created by flicking the rope became folks like me who spend their time idly on Zhihu.

You must surely know the name of this girl; she is none other than Nuwa.

Her family is said to be in Xihua, Zhoukou, Henan, not Qinghua.

(I don’t understand why Xihua University ended up in Chengdu? The people of Xihua are puzzled.)

She even patched up the sky, they say, on the Taihang Mountains. That’s why she’s also known as the Sky-Patching Goddess.

Do you know the Heavenly Clothes Festival? Oh, you don’t? That’s alright. Jia Baoyu probably knows, and Sun Wukong probably knows too. In fact, they are all leftovers created by Nuwa Goddess.

The provided paragraphs are written in Chinese.

“The girl is a year older than me, with a single ponytail, big eyes, and exceptionally beautiful handwriting.

Since elementary school, she has been my little follower.

We were in the same class for ten years (from kindergarten to junior high school), and despite numerous reshuffles, they never separated us.

Her house is not far from mine, and I often went to her place to play, sometimes spending time alone in a room.

She watched TV shows like “Huan Zhu Ge Ge,” “Xian Jian Qi Xia Zhuan,” and “Gong Suo Xin Yu,” one after another.

I didn’t like watching TV; I watched her.

The fact that we were childhood friends was never mentioned between us.

In junior high school, her grades were not good, and she liked to ask me for help with homework questions.

I always spoke rapidly, answered with a few words, and she often didn’t understand.

She became even more beautiful, but my attitude towards her wasn’t good.

Because I liked her.

Many people pursued her, and she interacted with other boys every day, so I felt jealous.

I expressed my jealousy by being moody with her.

She couldn’t understand why I was jealous, and she still asked me math questions every day.

She was always my desk mate, and I often stared at her seriously.

She didn’t avoid my gaze and let me look at her dumbly, her long eyelashes occasionally fluttering.

But I didn’t dare to confess my feelings to her.

One day in junior high school during an evening self-study session, I was in a bad mood and didn’t want to do homework, so I asked her to copy her math homework.

She widened her eyes and said her own grades weren’t good either, but she obediently gave me her homework.

When she handed me her notebook, she looked at me as if exchanging wedding rings.

The next day in math class, the class monitor asked us to stand up, and everyone greeted the teacher. The math teacher had a stern face and didn’t ask us to sit down.

“Yesterday, 14 students in this class had identical homework. These students should stand up; the others can sit down.”

At that moment, the chairs of those who sat down made a loud noise. I counted, and including me, there were exactly fourteen.

“Chen Huaiqiao, you may sit down, and one more.”

Surprisingly, the math teacher called my name.

As her desk mate, she looked at me, grabbed my hand, and gestured for me to sit down.

I sat down, but she stood up.

“This should clear things up!” The math teacher paused and began to list the names of those students.

“Something very unusual happened yesterday! Chen Huaiqiao’s math homework had only three correct answers out of ten multiple-choice questions, but I won’t blame him…”

“But the rest of you, your mistakes are identical to his…"

I turned red with embarrassment and watched her getting scolded at the front of the classroom, feeling incredibly uncomfortable.

“I’ll admit my mistake!” I said to her.

She gave me a glare. “I went to get scolded for you. If you admit it too, it’s like I got scolded for nothing.”

I lowered my head and accepted her gentleness.

But I never had the courage to be a hero in front of her, not even once.

I didn’t even dare to confess my feelings.

After junior high school, we went our separate ways and only met once a year during the holidays.

In my second year of college, she came to talk to me, and we spent an entire night stargazing.

She told me that she had liked the same person from junior high school until college.

I smiled and didn’t ask her if that person was me.

Because after five years apart, I couldn’t be sure if I still liked her.

After that night, we rarely spoke again.

One day, as I was packing my things, I found a book from sixth grade.

My handwriting was terrible, but hers was beautiful, so she always wrote my name in new books for me.

Behind my name in all those books, she had written her name in small letters with a pencil.

I picked up another book, and it was the same.

That small name hidden behind my name seemed so much like the girl who used to follow me obediently.

In sixth grade, I was 11 years old and didn’t understand anything; she was 12 years old and had entered puberty early, just falling in love for the first time.

We both understood but never spoke about it.

The box where I kept those old books was left by my sister. When I opened those books, I found a lyric card from a cassette tape.

The cassette was Jay Chou’s “Wo Hen Mang,” and there was a song called “Pugongying De Yue Ding."

On the day I was packing, I played that song on repeat.

As the sky darkened, I turned on the light.

Suddenly, I realized that I probably wouldn’t love her again, and she probably wouldn’t love me again.

But I still cried.

The lyrics in my headphones reached the part:

“And I can’t tell, whether you are friendship or the love that I missed."

Epilogue

Just a few days ago, I dreamt that she got married.

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Updated on November 9th

There are suddenly many comments; I’m a bit surprised.

Most people seem to have the same opinion, saying that I’m timid, not worthy of her, and not man enough.

Let me explain a few things.

“The childhood friends who stay together until old age is a story everyone likes, and I am no exception. But most of the time, this kind of plot can only exist in stories."

First of all, when she came to see me for stargazing in our sophomore year of college, it had been many years since that time. I just wanted to write something to commemorate her and the bittersweet feeling of our youth.

Secondly, in junior high school, many boys liked her, and she didn’t accept any of them. I am not sure if she still liked me afterward.

Apart from that, we just didn’t end up together, and she and my family were close, so we remained good friends.

The story from our junior high school days happened 12 years ago.

Love lasts for seven years, and it can be itchy at times. Moreover, 12 years have passed.

In reality, there is no such thing as a promise lasting a lifetime. She is not Geng Geng, and I am not Yu Huai.

Later, she fell in love with someone she liked, and I had two unsuccessful relationships.

Then, at a New Year’s party at a KTV, someone played the song “Ceng Ceng Na Nian” (匆匆那年).

We met again without tears or embarrassment.

There’s one untold story that happened during last year’s Lunar New Year when a group of us went out to set off fireworks.

She held a lit sparkler and shared it with me. It was cloudy that day, with no stars, and the golden

Thanks for inviting me. I’m in the United States, just got off a tractor.

Let me share a small incident:

She was my female boss during my internship while I was still in school.

Shortly after joining the company, she organized a weekend gathering at her house for colleagues, and we all cooked together.

I was the first one to arrive that day, and the others hadn’t come yet. I volunteered to help her.

She asked me to hand her the box of tea from the drawer, but I accidentally dropped the tea box on the table, spilling tea all over it…

I thought, “This is it. I’ve just started working, and I’ve already left a clumsy impression on my superior. This is so embarrassing!”

But when I looked up, I noticed that she had her back turned to me. Even though I had made quite a noise when I spilled the tea, she didn’t turn around. Normally, anyone’s first reaction would be to glance back. Yet she deliberately didn’t do that and continued to work on something else.

At that moment, my first reaction was to quickly clean up! After I had tidied everything up a bit, she casually turned around and started chatting with me, as if nothing had happened.

I think being able to save face for a newcomer and protect their fragile self-esteem is a sign of someone who knows how to deal with people.

During my undergraduate studies, there was a girl who left a deep impression on me. She was a top student with excellent grades in all subjects and high overall quality.

Once, I asked her for advice on how to study for the IELTS. She first inquired about the situation and then said,

“I wish you a smooth pass in this exam. If you don’t pass, my suggestion is balabalabala…”

Just this simple sentence made me feel really comfortable.

When young, don’t act recklessly. When old, don’t presume to teach. See through but don’t reveal, and when misunderstood without any loss of interest, don’t explain. Remain indifferent to gains and losses. Have a thunderous heart but a calm demeanor.

I strive to achieve this, but I do have a friend who can truly embody it. His name is Johnny, and he’s the only overweight guy I admire. He’s now a manager at Google. Learn from him.

Consider it a sharing.

While queuing at the train station to collect tickets, a person in a hurry ran up to the front of the line and asked the second person in line if they could cut in. The situation at that moment must have been urgent, and the person in a hurry probably had a train to catch. Waiting in line to collect the ticket would surely delay them from boarding the train on time.

The person in line, after hearing this, looked back at the queue behind and then turned to the anxious person, saying, “You can have my spot this time, but remember to be punctual next time. Not everyone is willing to let you cut in.”

After that, they left their original spot and joined the queue behind.

When helping others, it doesn’t have to inconvenience everyone else.

Middle school classmate, back then, he was the teacher’s right-hand man. After graduation, he took us to visit our teacher several times. He would buy some fruits and things like that himself. After the visit, after eating and singing, he would find a way to gather everyone for a game of mahjong. After a few rounds, as long as he didn’t deliberately lose, he would basically win back all the money spent that day. (Of course, after breaking even, he would start losing on purpose to avoid letting classmates lose too much.)

I had dinner with the chairman of a bank, and during the meal, he mentioned something that left a deep impression on me. It’s no wonder he can be a chairman.

Here’s what happened:

The chairman said to me, “No matter how high a position I hold or how capable I am outside, as long as I return to the town where I was born, I am just an ordinary person. I have enough respect for every official in this town, even if they are just a village leader.”

Maybe when I’m out, I choose my meals based on who I’m with, and if the food doesn’t suit my taste, I request a change. If the level isn’t up to par, I might not even go. But as soon as I’m home, even if a village leader invites me to dinner, I rush over.

The dining environment may not be great, the drinks may not be good, and I might not mind eating by the roadside. I’m always polite and show absolute respect. My identity outside doesn’t matter; the key is that when I’m back home, I’m just an ordinary person, and he is my local official, and I must show absolute respect.

I think I’m pretty good at dealing with people, and one thing is quite clear, I believe any girl would like and even appreciate someone like this.

When I encounter perverts, those who talk too much, or make fun of girls, I will confront them directly. For example, when a man in his fifties with some achievements says to a recent graduate, “You’re so beautiful; I just need a girlfriend, and I think you’re suitable.” In most cases, the girl feels embarrassed and shy and doesn’t know what to do. That’s when I step in:

“Mr. XX, look at you, joking again, scaring the little beauty here. Come on, tell her not to be afraid. Mr. XX just likes to joke around; he’s not a bad person. She sees your talent and wants to exchange ideas with you.” After both sides have spoken, I start talking about something else: “This dish is pretty good; let’s eat more.”

In such situations, I usually try to defuse the tension because I’m a woman too, and I’ve been through it, so I understand the feeling.

In my former company, there was a guy who was very lecherous and always liked to touch female colleagues inappropriately, like “casually touching their hands, faces, or hair” on a daily basis. Almost all the female colleagues in the company had experienced it, and some had reported it. At first, we thought it was accidental, but after we talked, we realized it was intentional.

One time, after a meeting, he harassed a female colleague again, trying to touch her hair and face, and she kept dodging. I happened to see it, and I got really angry.

“XX, you seem to like touching people’s hair and face; I happen to have that habit too, and I like it. Come here; let me touch you.” Before he could react, I grabbed his face, pinched it hard, and called on all the female colleagues in the company to come and touch him. After the operation, I sent a message to the company’s group:

“XX, considering your repeated sexual harassment of female colleagues and your unrepentant behavior, if you harass anyone again, I’ll tear your mouth apart!”

After sending the message, I told all the female colleagues in the company, “If he harasses you again, don’t hide; just slap him, and if you can’t handle it, find someone to help!”

After this incident, the boss talked to me: “You’re a leader; you should act like one. We’re all colleagues, so let’s communicate better. Don’t make it so embarrassing; how can we cooperate in the future?”

I confronted my boss on the spot: “If we could communicate better, would it have come to this today? How many people reported him before, and did he change? Yes, I’m a leader, but I’m also a woman! I can’t even protect my own team members; what’s the use of this position? Besides, I think what I did was right. If he sexually harasses anyone again, I will hit him directly, without hesitation!

Encounter people who are consistently socially inept,

Those who truly understand how to interact aren’t trying to “act human”; they are already individuals deserving of respect.

My middle school desk mate left a deep impression on me. She was the class monitor, had average grades, but carried herself with grace and had a great reputation among classmates. One time, when she was alone in the dormitory, a strong wind blew and knocked over another classmate’s mirror on the windowsill, shattering it. She went ahead and bought a new one for that classmate without any explanation. She told me that if she had explained, the classmate might not have pursued the matter, but there would still be doubts. It could have led to unnecessary arguments and strained relationships. Instead, by spending a few bucks, everyone remained happy.

Another time, a student from the neighboring class asked to borrow a book from her. She didn’t have that particular book, and if it were me, I might have simply said no or asked a few nearby classmates. But she went to each and every classmate in our class to borrow the book, and when she couldn’t find it there, she went to other classes, found the book, and delivered it to the student who needed it. I felt that she genuinely cared for others from the bottom of her heart; it wasn’t an act, she was just genuinely kind.

It’s about you guys going out together (boyfriend and girlfriend) with a close friend, and then the close friend asks my boyfriend to buy flowers for her. As a result, my boyfriend says, “I’ll buy them for you only if you help me choose a bouquet for my girlfriend,” because he kept asking me if I wanted them, and I kept saying no. So, he asked our close friend to pick the flowers, and in the end, he bought two bouquets!

Asking others for small favors within their capabilities can help improve relationships.
You can be polite to others, but don’t appear too easy to be taken advantage of.
Even if you have a good relationship, don’t backstab later. Avoid saying things like “I told you so” or “I knew it” after the fact.
Don’t try to change a person; no matter your intentions, it will only lead to disappointment.
It’s not about who you know, but about how many people know you. Expanding your network across different circles comes at a cost.
If you’re not doing well, few people will pay attention to you. But if you’re doing better than those around you, it can create a sense of imbalance.
When someone doesn’t respond to your messages despite being in an era of constant connectivity, it’s a clear sign of their intentions.
In tough times, you can truly see who’s a friend and who’s a “ghost.” Actions speak louder than words.
Managing your emotions well is a sign of maturity. No one likes to deal with someone who’s always angry.
People don’t care how hard the process of your improvement was; they mostly care about the results.
Do what you want to do, not what others think you should do.
Some people will appreciate your authentic self, and some won’t. Cherish those who do, and don’t force those who don’t. Time is precious; spend it with the most important people.
We can’t go through life as lone wolves; interacting with others is unavoidable. Instead of distancing yourself, try to build better relationships.
Many people shut down conversations as soon as they start talking, making others lose interest. Such people often think they’re entitled to special treatment.
Whether in speech or action, always aim to bring benefits to others; this paves the way for future interactions. Expecting others to help you without giving in return is unrealistic.
Relationships are based on mutual benefit and utilization, not one-sided help. People who always want something for nothing are immature.
Theoretically, anything can be accomplished, but it depends on how much you’re willing to invest and what chips you have to play.
Many claim they aren’t driven by personal gain and rely on feelings in relationships. This is self-deception.
Understand that people’s loyalty often depends on the benefits they gain from you, not personal affection.
Even if someone loudly proclaims their support, when their interests are at risk, they might not stand by you.
When you have resources and power, people will naturally treat you respectfully. Once you lose that power, the same people might turn their backs on you.
Never test someone’s character; no one can withstand such tests. If they seem to, it’s because the benefits aren’t significant enough or the temptations aren’t great.
This world is highly pragmatic. While many say they sympathize with the weak, when choosing partners, they often attach themselves to the strong.
Nobody genuinely sympathizes with the weak. If you see someone doing so, it’s likely because it benefits them in some way.
If you’re in your thirties and still have no car or house, and you’re unsure about your next meal, there are likely underlying issues causing this situation.
Many people have talent and work hard but struggle with social skills, limiting their opportunities.
Most people, no matter how hard they try, can’t reach the starting point of someone born with advantages.
Instead of complaining about unfairness, focus on identifying and solving your own problems.
The biggest difference between people isn’t their family background; it’s whether they can overcome human weaknesses.
Everyone has weaknesses like vanity, fear, anxiety, and the desire to show off, which stay with them for life. Some people are defeated by them, while others overcome.
Many people find it hard to say no when others ask for help. It’s not because they genuinely want to help but because they fear hurting the relationship.
Don’t forget that always helping others indiscriminately doesn’t make you a good person; it makes you appear weak.
In reality, many consequences are self-imagined. Even if you genuinely refuse someone, the world won’t collapse.
Even if you’ve helped someone ten times, if you refuse once, they may forget your past kindness and remember the one time you didn’t help. It’s better to refuse early than to be taken for granted.
If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect others to love you?
Some people naively think that by lowering their status and trying to please others, they’ll be loved more. Those who think this way don’t understand human nature.
People don’t cherish what they easily obtain; they value what they have

Mind your own business, focus on self-improvement. When you improve yourself, everyone will treat you better, whether superficially or genuinely.
Being truly adept at dealing with people and matters means not trying to mold yourself in others' minds or expecting others to meet your standards.
Be your best self and don’t live in the shadows of others. No matter how well you do, there will always be critics. In such cases, don’t care about anyone, and you’ll naturally reduce unnecessary worries.
When it comes to being a person, put yourself first because how you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you. When it comes to doing things, put yourself last because someone is always above you, and observing, listening, and learning are more important than doing.
Speak less to avoid trouble. When in a group, guard your tongue; when alone, guard your heart. Keep a calm mind; talking too much leads to trouble. In deep waters or strong winds, stay quiet if you lack strength.
To quickly make a good impression on someone, learn the art of buying water. When you first meet someone, bring two cups of milk tea; it immediately builds rapport.
Don’t provide constructive advice on other people’s important matters, such as what job someone’s child should pursue or what college major to choose. Other people’s major life decisions have nothing to do with you. If they fail, you’ll be blamed.
When someone speaks ill of you behind your back, don’t retaliate with negative comments about them. Instead, praise and acknowledge them sincerely. Over time, people won’t believe their negative words.
Have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. For those who aren’t good to you, you can completely cut ties. Treat and cherish those who are genuinely good to you.
Even if you dislike someone, don’t show obvious aversion. But also, don’t act overly warm. Show that you don’t care, ignore their status, but don’t hold them in your heart.
Stay true to yourself, be your most authentic self, and don’t care how others perceive you. Achieving this state of mind prevents regrets.
Be someone who’s not easily taken advantage of. Failing to recognize others' malicious intentions can lead to overestimating their friendliness. Be cautious with everyone; don’t assume everyone is well-intentioned.
Treat things as 9.9 out of 10, but treat people as 1 out of 10. Treating things as 9.9 out of 10 means that a one-dollar item reduced to 99 cents still has the same value; it remains what it is. Treating people as 1 out of 10 means that a person’s service value is one dollar; if you negotiate it down to 99 cents, even if the deal goes through, the service quality may decrease.
Actions don’t always need to be perfect, but words should be. For example, when you buy food at a restaurant, if the owner says to the chef, “Give a bit more meat to this young man,” don’t you feel happy and think of coming back next time? In reality, the chef might not have added extra meat, and the owner might not have asked for it, but you still leave with a positive impression of the restaurant and its owner.

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I must say, one of my graduate school classmates can be summarized in eight words:

Adaptable in all situations, versatile in all aspects.

Even our professors commented that he was the best at socializing among their students.

In reality, he helped me tremendously and provided great inspiration. I’m the type of person who, when I realize my shortcomings, seeks to learn from those who excel in that area. Therefore, during my second year of graduate school, I discreetly observed him as I discovered that my interpersonal skills were lacking.

It’s hard to pinpoint specific actions he took, but I can describe some of his characteristics:

First, you’d never hear the word “no” from him. I mean, he never denies anyone, nor does he refuse anyone. It’s not that he never says no; it’s just that when you hear him refuse, it sounds as pleasant as if he had agreed.

Second, he always speaks kind and praising words. Every word he says makes you smile and feel highly valued. Although he says the same things to everyone, it may come across as insincere, but everyone loves compliments, especially when they believe they’re right.

Third, he listens attentively and is loyal. Despite sometimes feeling that he’s insincere, if you need help, you don’t have to ask; he comes forward, making you feel special.

Fourth, he never exposes himself. He understands everyone, but no one understands him. He doesn’t talk about himself or his own affairs; he only listens to others.

Fifth, he differentiates between the issue and the person, high-profile in work, low-profile in character.

Sixth, he’s very active. He understands that building strong relationships with others is based on collaboration. At first, I looked down on his activities and networking, thinking they were boring and useless. I believed that being talented was enough. Later, when I organized events, if it weren’t for him taking me to find people to solve problems, my talents would have been in vain. He understands that cooperation is needed everywhere.

There are many more aspects, but I can’t remember them all. Later, I imitated him, and indeed, my life became much smoother, and my interpersonal relationships improved.

Sometimes I feel he’s tired, but he’s probably used to it over the years.

Looking back now after graduation, he did lead me by the nose, tricked me, and dug some pits for me. But back then, I couldn’t see it.

So, I saw a saying on Zhihu:

“If you’re always at a disadvantage when you’re with someone, then please stay away from them."

Because we were majoring in the same field and inevitably spent a lot of time together. Although he helped me a lot, he also tricked me a lot. At that time, I didn’t even feel like I was at a disadvantage. Sometimes I cynically thought, maybe he created those problems? Haha, I think I thought too much.

Later, I used his tricks from back then on my friends, and it worked like a charm. It made me even more certain that I had been fooled by him many times.

I gained many benefits, but I also felt ridiculous.

Actually, why bother with so many tricks? Tricks can be deciphered, and what if you encounter someone who understands them?

So, it’s better to be sincere. Sincerity is unsolvable.

But between some people, there is destined to be no sincerity.

Being a person is simple,

“Being human” is difficult,

High emotional intelligence developed in dealing with others is not just about being human.

Isn’t the most basic part of being human learning to follow one’s own heart first?

There’s an animal that looks like a rabbit, eats grass, hops around, has multiple offspring in a year, and multiple offspring in one litter - that’s what we call a rabbit.

But if it doesn’t live up to what we hope for, is it still a rabbit?

I’ve encountered too many people like this, and I’ve learned a lot from them.

People who are good at dealing with others are generally those with high emotional intelligence. They share a common trait, which is an extreme altruistic mindset. They always believe that helping others is an achievement for themselves, and benefiting others is benefiting themselves. With this kind of mentality, they interact with others by continuously providing valuable information. This way, you will feel that your entire life is full of positivity and meaning.

Building relationships takes time; don’t reveal everything about yourself right away. It’s not about being insincere; it’s about being cautious.
Never underestimate others; those who treat others as fools are the ones who are truly foolish.
Who you are doesn’t matter much; people won’t care. But when you do things well, others will naturally take notice.
Don’t test your partner. It’s not that they can’t pass the test; it’s that from the moment you test them, it proves you’re not a good fit, and most people can’t pass such tests.
If you can avoid borrowing money from friends, do so. If you must borrow, be prepared for the possibility that they won’t repay.
Any relationship involves practical aspects, but sometimes emotions are more important.
Control your emotions. Often, our emotions burden others, and constant complaints push away those who care about us.
Love is never wrong; it’s the people who come into your life who can be wrong. Some people appear to teach you what not to do.
Being a bit rogue can help you avoid hardship.
People are inherently foolish creatures. In the social world, you must be assertive; being too timid will lead to bullying.
Maintain a certain distance between friends; constant intimacy can lead to separation.
Don’t be too curious about others' experiences; sometimes, knowing more isn’t necessarily better.
Not all apologies will receive a forgiving response.
In the workplace, the unspoken rule is “survival of the fittest.” Those who work more make more mistakes. Making more mistakes means more hard work without recognition.
You can’t afford to be idle in the workplace, and leaders won’t let you be idle. That’s why many honest, hardworking people struggle to advance.
In interpersonal relationships, strive to be honest, not just an honest person. “Honest person” is a derogatory term, often referring to someone timid and overly cautious. “Honesty” refers to one’s character, but survival requires skills, and honesty can’t replace survival skills.
Leaders generally won’t promote overly honest individuals because extreme honesty doesn’t benefit them. If you’re in sales, being honest but without results won’t suffice. If you’re a teacher, being honest but unable to deliver results won’t work either.
In places with high turnover, being too honest doesn’t work. Excessive honesty won’t help in the workplace or the business world.
The highest level of Chinese philosophy is “outer round, inner square.” Maintain principles within but focus on means and methods when dealing with matters.
Survival in the workplace is not about strength but emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the ability to adapt when faced with challenges.
High emotional intelligence isn’t about being smooth-talking or sly. It’s about following rules and respecting human nature.
Human nature seeks benefit and avoids harm. Only those who are good at spending money will avoid unnecessary detours.
People who fail often underestimate the power of money and overestimate the power of face and friendship.
If you want others to willingly listen to you, provide what they want. In the world of social relations, it’s about exchanging benefits, making others trust you, and forming connections.
Being too accommodating will lead to more difficulties, and excessive tolerance will encourage further encroachment.
People’s negative attitudes toward you are often a result of your own habits.
Human nature is often hypocritical. People say one thing and do another, making grand promises but selling you out when it benefits them.
Human nature is like this. Don’t overindulge your dog, and don’t treat people too well.
People naturally resist criticism, always believing they are right, and making excuses for themselves.
In this world, people judge you based on your appearance or power. If you lack both, people will simply say goodbye.
If you always encounter good people and everything goes smoothly, you’ll never grow. Encountering a few bad people, the more ruthless they are, the more you’ll mature.
All saints have experienced the greatest hardships in the world before reaching enlightenment.
Being too sensible, too kind, and too accommodating often leads to unfortunate circumstances. What you perceive as love may come at the cost of suppressing yourself.
If you have no bargaining chips, anyone can harm you. Don’t blame others.
In relationships, the most helpless situation for a man is meeting a girl he wants to take care of for life at an age when he lacks material means. For a woman, it’s encountering a man who can’t wait in his prime.
Wealthy men never lack women, just as attractive women never lack wealthy men.
In this world, there are few genuinely helpful people. Those who wish you ill are often your best friends.
If you have value to offer, people will surround you with smiles. If you lose your value, they will find ways to avoid you.
No relationship can withstand constant tests. Only money remains your best friend.

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